So, you came here for help. I am guessing. You want to know if you should leave your partner, quit your job, unfriend someone, leave the city you grew up in, etc. This feels like a transitional moment for everyone right now. I feel it. I have no idea how to move forward. I feel stifled by making the wrong choice, so I do nothing.
I was so excited when I heard about Annie Duke’s new book, Quit. I have been a fan of her for years. Her books are amazing. Annie has lots of gifts, and from her work, specificity, and accuracy are strong values for her. She is not afraid of a complicated problem, facing them with curiosity.
The idea of knowing when to walk away always seemed just as important as knowing when to stay, and stick with things.
I like having permission to leave something if it is just too much. I am a quitter. I am also a stickwither. Just depends on the situation. But my mom brain needed some way, some simple way to help me make decisions and feel confident in them.
So I asked Annie to make a deck with us.
To break down her research into easy thought experiments that will help to clarify the situation you find yourself in, helping you move forward with confidence.
After reading Annie’s book, Quit, I was able to assess my job and my partnership. Should I leave my partner? We are not always happy together… My job is painful but rewarding, how do I know when to throw in the towel? Her work made me feel good about actually NOT quitting them. That a better life was not without them, but with them. Which felt really good. I feel steadfast in my decisions to try to predict my future happiness. You will too, I promise.
Thanks as always for being here. And for letting me share projects that I am excited about.
I am also currently seeking places that make me feel this:
I loved this part! “Her work made me feel good about actually NOT quitting them. That a better life was not without them, but with them. “ It’s nice to have validation about sticking with something. I have had that recent experience as well and am so incredibly happy to be on the other side of a rough patch 🧡