I really appreciate this. I’ve learned that I obsess over everyone’s experiences. Like I’m some mad cruise director who will get thrown off the bus if everyone doesn’t have a good journey. It is a hard thing to let go of. I need constant reminders, and this was one today.
This landed like a punch I spent most of my life measuring myself by other people's moods apologising until I heard “it's okay” now I'm learning to stop that hunger and breathe on my own terms Your words cut straight to it thank you
Man, I feel this one so, so much, especially waiting for the "it's OK, I still love you" - I almost feel kinda gross when I do it, like the apologizing I'm doing is really just trying to manipulate my partner into saying what I want to hear. I'm really not sorry, I'm just trying to make them feel something other than what I know they are feeling, because i feel so uncomfortable feeling like i disappointed someone, or made them mad, or whatever. Oof. You've given me a lot to think about. <3
This is really beautiful and meaningful. Thank you for sharing and for so clearly articulating something I've also struggled with all my life. I've forwarded it to half the people I know!
I really appreciate this. I’ve learned that I obsess over everyone’s experiences. Like I’m some mad cruise director who will get thrown off the bus if everyone doesn’t have a good journey. It is a hard thing to let go of. I need constant reminders, and this was one today.
Crazy to only be aware of this at 50 something.. it’s hard to change.
This landed like a punch I spent most of my life measuring myself by other people's moods apologising until I heard “it's okay” now I'm learning to stop that hunger and breathe on my own terms Your words cut straight to it thank you
Man, I feel this one so, so much, especially waiting for the "it's OK, I still love you" - I almost feel kinda gross when I do it, like the apologizing I'm doing is really just trying to manipulate my partner into saying what I want to hear. I'm really not sorry, I'm just trying to make them feel something other than what I know they are feeling, because i feel so uncomfortable feeling like i disappointed someone, or made them mad, or whatever. Oof. You've given me a lot to think about. <3
Love the handwritten notes here!
This is really beautiful and meaningful. Thank you for sharing and for so clearly articulating something I've also struggled with all my life. I've forwarded it to half the people I know!