When expections get in the way of love...
When expections get in the way of love...
New practice and IN person event tonight.
Lately, I have been thinking about how my expectations get in the way of love. Why do we get hung up on the small stuff? (I am not talking about big things here, just the day-to-day like making the bed or squeezing the toothpaste).
Why do we think we want the things we do? I get that in some ways it helps guide us to what we want, some could argue that it pulls us to make our lives better. But what happens when most of the stuff we have been taught to value doesn’t actually matter? Like height, or clothes, or whatever.
Next time I get caught up in some sort of pickle of should be, I am going to ask myself why? Why do I care? What values are trying to be expressed? Who am I trying to please? Perhaps this might dial down my temperature…
Today I put on makeup for the first time in months. Does anyone else feel really out of touch right now? Like I don’t know what is cool, what I want to be, how to exist in this world…
But I am talking to Gabrielle Blair tonight about her book (in person) so I have to figure out how to be again. It’s at 6pm at Book Passage in the Ferry Building in SF. Come. Here is the link. She also has a substack…
I also decided that if I wanted to be anyone, I would be this person. Or I am going to try to live as if that were true. Thanks for being here. XO, Carissa
(also the person I really want to be is someone who wears Ali Golden. Here is a link to my dream outfit that I got to help me feel like me when really I don’t know who that is anymore.)
I so wish I could be there tonight! Gabrielle Blair is an amazing woman. How wonderful you get to do a live interview with her! And the book cover is the best 70s throw back I've seen in a long time.
So -- I was JUST thinking about this love and expectation thing and the little things that bother me in a big way. My husband, Larry, loves to eat things that should be hot, cold. Right out of the fridge in the pot I cooked it in. Like cold pasta. Cold stir fry. Out. Of. The Pot. Like he's on a camping trip. Anyway, I decided to stop asking him if he wanted me to heat it up and put it on a plate on in a bowl. Maybe he is feeling like he's on a rugged hiking trip and I just need to shut up. The little things...
I totally feel out of touch. I got COVID at the end of 2020, 2021 & 2022 & am still dealing with launghaulers & respiratory issues. I have spent most of the last few years.isolated with my dogs & in my pj's.& no make-up. I identify with a lot of what you say. I, too, am a big believer in therapy.
Love & blessings!