Not a parent (and not a great relationship with mine), and I remember the day the theory that we choose our parents was introduced to me. Ugh. I looked at that sage and said, "Something definitely got screwed up in the paperwork then, because I did not choose this." The sage smiled and said, "Yes, you did." Your child chose you. You wanted each other. That's where we should start. Every relationship is a learning curve and a chance to heal ourselves. We put way too much pressure on mothers to have this inner knowledge and innate intuition...and that too easily turns into control. "I know you better than anyone," my mother would shout. "Yeah? Tell me my favorite color," I'd reply. She never could. But she never wanted to ask. It was easier to assume. You have a huge heart, Carissa, and such insight. That is everything. Mistakes/missteps don't matter if the love is there. It's only painful when love is absent. xo
This absolutely life changing. Wish I would have had this 20 years ago. My son is 28 now and I have made do many mistakes. But it’s never too late to parent yourself or be a good example. Thank you for opening my eyes! ❤️❤️❤️
This is such a beautiful post and I am amazed each week reading your candid thoughts on life and how real you are. It gives me hope, and makes me feel more secure with myself so thank you. I am an aunt and I am in no way ever trying to but in with my brother and how he raises his children, and I have always been scared to have kids for fear of projecting my own issues onto them. This post is so enlightening and so helpful to read about an approach to be more accepting in general. I would love to read this book if it is still up for the taking. Thank you always
I’m interested for sure. I am a mom to two toddlers, and I struggle so much. I have come a long way, and done a lot of healing. But as a (former) gifted kid who “never lived up to her potential,” there is a big gaping hole within me because I feel like I’m supposed to be doing something extraordinary. And then I feel awful because raising two beautiful little ones should be enough...a regular life should be enough right? And then I spiral back to shame because I’m trying to shake this idea of should-ing myself all of the time. All of this to say, Im definitely wanting to read this book.
Sooooo gooood. I do not have children however I found this post to be quite valuable to me.
Not a parent (and not a great relationship with mine), and I remember the day the theory that we choose our parents was introduced to me. Ugh. I looked at that sage and said, "Something definitely got screwed up in the paperwork then, because I did not choose this." The sage smiled and said, "Yes, you did." Your child chose you. You wanted each other. That's where we should start. Every relationship is a learning curve and a chance to heal ourselves. We put way too much pressure on mothers to have this inner knowledge and innate intuition...and that too easily turns into control. "I know you better than anyone," my mother would shout. "Yeah? Tell me my favorite color," I'd reply. She never could. But she never wanted to ask. It was easier to assume. You have a huge heart, Carissa, and such insight. That is everything. Mistakes/missteps don't matter if the love is there. It's only painful when love is absent. xo
Yes!!!
This absolutely life changing. Wish I would have had this 20 years ago. My son is 28 now and I have made do many mistakes. But it’s never too late to parent yourself or be a good example. Thank you for opening my eyes! ❤️❤️❤️
Definitely interested! ❤️❤️❤️
Embracing ordinary-ness...this is my journey too. American Exceptionalism culture has really screwed me and my life expectations up.
This is such a beautiful post and I am amazed each week reading your candid thoughts on life and how real you are. It gives me hope, and makes me feel more secure with myself so thank you. I am an aunt and I am in no way ever trying to but in with my brother and how he raises his children, and I have always been scared to have kids for fear of projecting my own issues onto them. This post is so enlightening and so helpful to read about an approach to be more accepting in general. I would love to read this book if it is still up for the taking. Thank you always
I’m interested for sure. I am a mom to two toddlers, and I struggle so much. I have come a long way, and done a lot of healing. But as a (former) gifted kid who “never lived up to her potential,” there is a big gaping hole within me because I feel like I’m supposed to be doing something extraordinary. And then I feel awful because raising two beautiful little ones should be enough...a regular life should be enough right? And then I spiral back to shame because I’m trying to shake this idea of should-ing myself all of the time. All of this to say, Im definitely wanting to read this book.
Me please!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️