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Well that was a beautiful personal essay. More please! A memoir in the making. I loved this: "Clothes were financed on credit at The Limited Too." Lay-away we called in in Baltimore. Can you believe they did that? You could go in and pay off a little bit every week, and they would hold it for you in the back of the store. The opposite of instant gratification. Thank you for this reflection.

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I mean, I don't get it either. BUT also, I don't know how I got so lucky you show up for me susan. We should both write memoirs for fun! I mean, life is so werid right?

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I’m working on mine. I promised myself I would finish it this year!!

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I love you. <3

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I am always thinking of you. I tell people about you all the time.

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Same. I immediately reject anything told to me when it gut-level isn't right. That's why those throw pillows and house signs telling me how to feel have always enraged me. Then again, my family-of-origin home had a welcome mat that said: Go Away.

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it's so weird! In some ways, as a person who makes those things - the house things like prints that say "things will work out" etc- I feel like I should not like them either. I think I am selective about it. I made a door mat that said, "We have so much in common" after we were robbed. I love how you use the family-of-origin as a phrase. I am going to use it moving forward, if you don't mind?

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If someone hadn’t pointed out to me how I “should feel,” the seed would never have been planted in my heart, and I would still be a miserable fuck.

I can’t see how that bit of information ever invalidated how I was feeling. When it was pointed out, I could t even be mad.

It changed my life.

People don’t like a lot of things that are good for them.

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Very fair. I am curious: What is your enneagram number? Do you consider yourself an easygoing person? I mean, I wish I was easygoing; I am just not. But trying to learn. Why do you think people can react so differently to information in different contexts? Humans are so cool/weird/hard to understand.

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I am not easygoing. Or at least I wasn’t. I am extremely intense at times. It was a decision not to be.

When the internet decided that the sky was falling, I just decided that for my own mental health, I was no longer going to react to things emotionally.

Best decision I made was to change my vibration.

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