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Carissa, tussi great ho ji. In Punjabi :-)

Brilliant insight and share.

I wanna join the commentary but alas!

I am tight on time being the sounding board for a report being crafted by the founder of a niche yoga school which is celebrating its 10th anniversary.

Why this explanation? Well it is your topic of clusterfuck and I too am duffering it!

Ha ha ha. Keep it coming lady.

Love it!

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TOTAL clusterfuck and everything feels life or death. Thanks for letting us know where you are at and the supportive words! Good luck on the yoga board! You got this!

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Clusterfuck...the word of the month for sure:-))

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"The 'you only have one life' mentality is meant to help us prioritize, but instead, it pressurizes our time." Such a refreshing read! Reading this was like staring into a mirror.

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Thanks Ella! How did we all get here? I mean, I don't know how to let go... I really appreciate your taking time to comment :)

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I’ve always been so bad at letting go! As obvious as it may sound, in these moments I’ll ask myself: what exactly am I holding onto? Sometimes that helps 🙈

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OK. I will try that. I just have this really strong fear of loosing what I love. I am holding on... Thanks Ella!

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I really needed to hear this today. Thank you. And I will need to read that book because some balls are rubber and some are glass is BRILLIANT!

We chose to just go with the neighborhood school (especially after listening/reading to both incredible resources you mentioned) and we've loved the joy of walking them there and back, of seeing school signs in our neighborhood, and less to juggle with a shorter commute.

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Where are you at? I am so curious about your experience!

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I don’t really know how to respond?

Nine years dealing with a terminally ill child.

Twenty three years of dealing with severe autism.

Raising five other children, all with different interests and needs.

Unemployment.

Working a thousand miles away from my family. Starting two businesses…

It seems like we could be in a constant state of crisis or overwhelmed all the time.

I guess I just choose not to?

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I have no idea. But I can say you are holding a lot. And I am not sure what I would let go of if I was you. That sounds unbelievably hard.

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There are things you put down.

Not my children.

Not my wife.

Everything else I put down each morning.

My blood pressure is much lower since I started doing that.

I forget every once in a while.

It’s difficult to explain.

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I like the idea of putting down too. It is less dramatic than dropping things. And it implies that you can pick them back up.

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Most things will still be there the next day.

You can always decide what you need and what you don’t after thinking critically about it…

But life is too short to be overwhelmed all the time.

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We def both agree on that point! I am trying to learn how :)

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Marc Manson said “Happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems. Joy doesn’t just sprout out of the ground like daisies and rainbows. Real, serious, lifelong fulfillment and meaning have to be earned through the choosing and managing of our struggles.”

Having lived a lifelong battle with struggles, I would argue it is not always about managing, but accepting.

It's easy to complain about things, to wallow in the ”woe is me.”

Its hard to knuckle down, do the work and choose contentment. To find silver life nings is not especially complicated, but it isn’t easy.

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