Carissa, this is so beautiful and true. I'm always wondering, while reading your writing, about your childhood. What made you so wise? So able to talk about hard things so honestly and with such care? What kind of parenting or life experiences brought you to this kind of wisdom about life's hard things? It's beautiful. Really a gift.
This essay reminded me how fragile we are. Sometimes I catch myself being madly jealous of someone and I feel guilty as if I had been caught stealing. But I am a simple human and jealousy is a simple emotion, and sometimes it is quite possible that we will meet. So is judgement, even gossip. It's valuable to find the reasons behind them, as you are doing here.
I admire your ability to distinguish your emotions you feel with such clarity, and also letting them get out. So rare and valuable.
This post reminded me of the movie Wreck it Ralph, Ralph goes to a villain anonymous group. Their affirmation is "I'm bad, and that's good! I will never be good, and that's not bad!"
Highly recommend the book “crucial conversations” to explore this topic further. Actions > thought > feeling. The thoughts or stories we tell ourselves lead to our emotions. We primarily judge others by their actions when we want to be judged by our intentions. Great post!
Carissa, this is so beautiful and true. I'm always wondering, while reading your writing, about your childhood. What made you so wise? So able to talk about hard things so honestly and with such care? What kind of parenting or life experiences brought you to this kind of wisdom about life's hard things? It's beautiful. Really a gift.
This essay reminded me how fragile we are. Sometimes I catch myself being madly jealous of someone and I feel guilty as if I had been caught stealing. But I am a simple human and jealousy is a simple emotion, and sometimes it is quite possible that we will meet. So is judgement, even gossip. It's valuable to find the reasons behind them, as you are doing here.
I admire your ability to distinguish your emotions you feel with such clarity, and also letting them get out. So rare and valuable.
This post reminded me of the movie Wreck it Ralph, Ralph goes to a villain anonymous group. Their affirmation is "I'm bad, and that's good! I will never be good, and that's not bad!"
Highly recommend the book “crucial conversations” to explore this topic further. Actions > thought > feeling. The thoughts or stories we tell ourselves lead to our emotions. We primarily judge others by their actions when we want to be judged by our intentions. Great post!
A super read, you have articulated something so tricky and mostly hidden, very well. The image is perfect. Xo