Hey dear Carissa, thank you for your vulnerable words aa always 🧡 I have (had) the same scepsis around manifesting. Hoping it to work, but finding it hard to believe at the same time. What comes to mind while reading this though is: The Circle of Influence. You know that one?
What if manifesting isn't about 'saving the Milky Way from being swallowed by solar system XT15262', but: 'i'll find inner peace regarding climate change'?
I think for me personally, I find it hard to believe that my manifesting can actually bring world peace. I know my mind doesnt like cognitive dissonance. Especially when I know I have no fucking control over Poetin. But maybe if we focus on what we can actually have influence on, our goals can grow bigger step by step?
Ive always been very scared of Death. Of dying myself, but especially my mother dying. One time, in group therapy, some random women asked me very blunt: but what are you afraid of? That you can't handle it when she actually dies?
I was stunned. By her not sugarcoating it for me, but also my body responding very clearly: uhm no, i know i wíll be able to handle it actually. Wauw. I never expected that.
Im not comparing this 1 on 1 with your situation to be clear ;) but, a lot of times it helped me very much to actually 'finish' my scary thought instead of running away for it. Worse case, what is my worst case? What am I most afraid of?
Sit with it.
And maybe manifesting isn't always the right medicine. When things are unsure, ofcourse you hope/manifest for no diagnosis. But once it's there, once it's a solid fact, maybe the right medicine is to give some space to your grieve❤️🩹
It’s great to say “get out of your own way”, but how? That’s where I think manifesting comes in. It removes you as an obstacle to your success. If the root cause was you, it’s highly effective. If the root cause was actually, for example, a disease or systemic discrimination, it won’t fix it. But any side effects of it that were compounded by you can be mitigated using manifesting as a road map out of your own way.
Dr. Kim D’Eramo’s Instant Elevation Technique is something I like better than “manifesting”. It’s a technique that helps clear out the blocks to receiving good things. I personally find “manifesting” is hard work. Clearing out the blocks is much more fluid to me. The good things then just show up on their own.
Carissa, this all deeply resonated with me. It was nice to finally see many of the thoughts I have had about manifesting written right in front of me. My thoughts and experience of manifestation has changed drastically over the last four years, when I began to look at it through the lens of larger energy work and Human Design. I have found that contemplating manifestation as you describe was really limiting for me as well. I had a lot of questions, similar to yours. What helped was beginning to think about my own havingness instead. Honoring my current level of havingness while energetically working to raise it. I would get tied up in resistance a lot when thinking of manifestation from other perspectives. Getting stuck on how these things were going to happen. Difficultly trusting. I've done a lot of work around it (energetically speaking) and have found that at least under the current lens I'm working with it, I am a lot more comfortable. It's definitely a practice for me and one that grows and is filled with more ease as I continue to learn.
I recently got into the concept of manifesting, and as usual fell into the rabbit hole of why and how. But there's this incredible woman, Dr Tara Swart, who studied it and talk about it at length, if that can be helpful :)
I love this! I was going to put my own comment up here, but I saw and I looked up your reference. Dr Swart does a really nice job describing what I wanted to comment about. I also highly recommend Dr. Swart's ideas about "manifesting".
Brilliant piece. I think manifesting works in a reality based way insofar as human beings don't seem to act on their goals unless there is some tiny outside force and even saying a goal counts as some compelling force. Love what you said about manifestation discounting the amount that love is a decision and work and attention. Loved what you said about how we reflect back the other person's pain. I guess because they hurt us with the expression of their pain. I always try to think did I shoot first and not notice? But it's not easy. I think manifesting for M's health makes sense because worrying doesn't help any and feeling positive can help everything (and might well align with how things turn out).
is there time for manifesting when you are facing down a challenge? I always focus on doing the work required *without fail* so there is less regret or beating of self if expected outcomes weren't meant to be. I respect that each individual needs to move through the world in their own way, that thought alone makes me giddy!
I've always thought of manifestation as silly magical thinking, but apparently there is a sound scientific basis to it. I'm currently reading James Doty's Mind Magic. I haven't tried implementing it yet, but I have to admit it does make a lot of sense...
I don't think of it like manifestation, but I do approach it like a mantra. I've struggled at work so much with motivation and doubt, and I finally had a turning point that helped me realize I was self-sabotaging. I keep notes on my cubicle wall at work:
my success is in my hands
only I can achieve my goals
fail fast, learn fast
opportunity follows adversity
i have the power to succeed
i can choose actions that move toward my goals
every failure is a step to success
I think what makes them feel tangible to me is that they reinforce truths that the vulnerable part of me forgets. Versus just, idk, googling "inspirational quotes" or something. I think there are limits to manifestation, but there's such power in moving toward a future that you want, and being open to adjustments on the way. And maybe adjustments are the key point--you can't manifest a child without illness, but you can manifest a fulfilling life for her with good disease management and the choices you make for her and your family.
I have chronic illnesses, and I can't manifest the energy for a concert without also accepting that the following day will most likely be a big rest day. I can't "manifest" a body without dysfunctions, but I can create a life with flexibility and small joys that exist within the limitations it presents.
You can say that your position now is "mostly luck", which is true, but you could have made many different choices throughout your life that would not have led to this place. To me, that's a healthier way to approach manifestation in some ways. But I do like your final point of "I have a beautiful life right now". Sometimes years are for building/recovering , and sometimes they are for living.
Hey dear Carissa, thank you for your vulnerable words aa always 🧡 I have (had) the same scepsis around manifesting. Hoping it to work, but finding it hard to believe at the same time. What comes to mind while reading this though is: The Circle of Influence. You know that one?
What if manifesting isn't about 'saving the Milky Way from being swallowed by solar system XT15262', but: 'i'll find inner peace regarding climate change'?
I think for me personally, I find it hard to believe that my manifesting can actually bring world peace. I know my mind doesnt like cognitive dissonance. Especially when I know I have no fucking control over Poetin. But maybe if we focus on what we can actually have influence on, our goals can grow bigger step by step?
Ive always been very scared of Death. Of dying myself, but especially my mother dying. One time, in group therapy, some random women asked me very blunt: but what are you afraid of? That you can't handle it when she actually dies?
I was stunned. By her not sugarcoating it for me, but also my body responding very clearly: uhm no, i know i wíll be able to handle it actually. Wauw. I never expected that.
Im not comparing this 1 on 1 with your situation to be clear ;) but, a lot of times it helped me very much to actually 'finish' my scary thought instead of running away for it. Worse case, what is my worst case? What am I most afraid of?
Sit with it.
And maybe manifesting isn't always the right medicine. When things are unsure, ofcourse you hope/manifest for no diagnosis. But once it's there, once it's a solid fact, maybe the right medicine is to give some space to your grieve❤️🩹
I dont know you, but I hope the best for you 😊
x Valentina
It’s great to say “get out of your own way”, but how? That’s where I think manifesting comes in. It removes you as an obstacle to your success. If the root cause was you, it’s highly effective. If the root cause was actually, for example, a disease or systemic discrimination, it won’t fix it. But any side effects of it that were compounded by you can be mitigated using manifesting as a road map out of your own way.
Dr. Kim D’Eramo’s Instant Elevation Technique is something I like better than “manifesting”. It’s a technique that helps clear out the blocks to receiving good things. I personally find “manifesting” is hard work. Clearing out the blocks is much more fluid to me. The good things then just show up on their own.
Carissa, this all deeply resonated with me. It was nice to finally see many of the thoughts I have had about manifesting written right in front of me. My thoughts and experience of manifestation has changed drastically over the last four years, when I began to look at it through the lens of larger energy work and Human Design. I have found that contemplating manifestation as you describe was really limiting for me as well. I had a lot of questions, similar to yours. What helped was beginning to think about my own havingness instead. Honoring my current level of havingness while energetically working to raise it. I would get tied up in resistance a lot when thinking of manifestation from other perspectives. Getting stuck on how these things were going to happen. Difficultly trusting. I've done a lot of work around it (energetically speaking) and have found that at least under the current lens I'm working with it, I am a lot more comfortable. It's definitely a practice for me and one that grows and is filled with more ease as I continue to learn.
Loved it!
I recently got into the concept of manifesting, and as usual fell into the rabbit hole of why and how. But there's this incredible woman, Dr Tara Swart, who studied it and talk about it at length, if that can be helpful :)
I love this! I was going to put my own comment up here, but I saw and I looked up your reference. Dr Swart does a really nice job describing what I wanted to comment about. I also highly recommend Dr. Swart's ideas about "manifesting".
Brilliant piece. I think manifesting works in a reality based way insofar as human beings don't seem to act on their goals unless there is some tiny outside force and even saying a goal counts as some compelling force. Love what you said about manifestation discounting the amount that love is a decision and work and attention. Loved what you said about how we reflect back the other person's pain. I guess because they hurt us with the expression of their pain. I always try to think did I shoot first and not notice? But it's not easy. I think manifesting for M's health makes sense because worrying doesn't help any and feeling positive can help everything (and might well align with how things turn out).
is there time for manifesting when you are facing down a challenge? I always focus on doing the work required *without fail* so there is less regret or beating of self if expected outcomes weren't meant to be. I respect that each individual needs to move through the world in their own way, that thought alone makes me giddy!
I've always thought of manifestation as silly magical thinking, but apparently there is a sound scientific basis to it. I'm currently reading James Doty's Mind Magic. I haven't tried implementing it yet, but I have to admit it does make a lot of sense...
I don't think of it like manifestation, but I do approach it like a mantra. I've struggled at work so much with motivation and doubt, and I finally had a turning point that helped me realize I was self-sabotaging. I keep notes on my cubicle wall at work:
my success is in my hands
only I can achieve my goals
fail fast, learn fast
opportunity follows adversity
i have the power to succeed
i can choose actions that move toward my goals
every failure is a step to success
I think what makes them feel tangible to me is that they reinforce truths that the vulnerable part of me forgets. Versus just, idk, googling "inspirational quotes" or something. I think there are limits to manifestation, but there's such power in moving toward a future that you want, and being open to adjustments on the way. And maybe adjustments are the key point--you can't manifest a child without illness, but you can manifest a fulfilling life for her with good disease management and the choices you make for her and your family.
I have chronic illnesses, and I can't manifest the energy for a concert without also accepting that the following day will most likely be a big rest day. I can't "manifest" a body without dysfunctions, but I can create a life with flexibility and small joys that exist within the limitations it presents.
You can say that your position now is "mostly luck", which is true, but you could have made many different choices throughout your life that would not have led to this place. To me, that's a healthier way to approach manifestation in some ways. But I do like your final point of "I have a beautiful life right now". Sometimes years are for building/recovering , and sometimes they are for living.
I want to get a job at the moment ✨
Seems what U lack is discipline! I want to make music 1hr and write 1 hr daily and eat less. Hmmm… my fate is in my own hands!
What I lack not u! And could improve communication skills!
thanks for the laugh!
Beautifully said - all of it. I've missed you, so this was a sweet spot in my day reading about M being strong - like, for real strong! xoxo
self confidence to actualize who i want to become :)